Virtues of PAin…

bAsED oN rEcENt eVEnTS, iT hAS iNSPiREd mE tO inpUT aNOThER laMe O cLIcHE’ bLOg aBoUT..rELaTiOnShIpS.. sO rEaD oN iF you wAnt..iF nOt exIt At The tOp LeFt haNd cOrNEr iMMeDiATeLY.. hErE GoeS..

Im BegiNning To AccEpT ThE ReaLitY wHiCh Is, PeOpLe cHanGe, LeArN nEw tHinGs aNd bEgiN tO eXpeRieNce LiFe diFFeReNtLy.. UnForTuNaTeLy iF yOuR pArTnEr iS tHe oNe cHanGiNg aNd yOu aRe nOt pArt oF tHeIr nEw wOrLd iT cAn fEel liKe thEy aRe sLipPiNg aWay fRom yOu..  BuT By cOmiNg toGetHer aNd rE-coNneCtiNg iT iS pOssiBLe tO gRow aS a coUpLe/cOMpANioN aNd aVoiD dRiFtiNg aPaRt.. LiStEd beLoW ArE jUst ThE Low-DoWnS FrOm My OwN ExpEriEnCe.. As To WhAt i fEeL Could HavE cAuSed sUcH a RiFt..and How I fEeL CoupLes cAn worK on MakIngS ThiNgS BettEr sLowLy, GradUaLLy..

WhAt’S tHe TriGgEr ? (yES pEOpLe..tHeR’s aLWAyS A tRIgGER! duh!)
OfTeN pEoPLe dOn’t jUsT gRoW aPaRt fRoM eAcH oThEr wiThOut tHeRe bEinG a TriGgEr fOr oNe pArtNer tO sTaRt cHanGinG tHeIr bEhaVioUr… PeRhApS tHeY hAve sTaRtEd a nEw GoaL oR tAkeN uP a mOrE dEMaNDiNg tASk tHaT tHey hAve bEcoMe vErY iNvoLvEd aNd tHe oTheR pErsOn fEeLs LeFt oUt… MaYbe tHey haVe DeCideD tHat rIghT nOw..”LOVE” iS jUsT sOMeTHinG thAT tHey jUst haVe to leT gO.. aNd aT tImEs tHeiR pArtNer iS fiNdiNg iT dIffIcuLt tO uNdeRstAnD… Or iT cOuLd bE thAt sOmeThiNg tRauMatIc LikE tHe SuDDEn sIcKnESS oF a LoVeD oNe hApPeNed aNd iT hAs tUrnEd tHeiR wHoLe LifE uPsIdE dOwN… nEVeRThELesS, WhaTeVeR tHe tRiGger fOr tHe nEw bEhAviOuR IS, yOu wiLL nEed tO woRk oUt wHat iT iS aNd tRy tO uNdErStaNd iT..

UnDerStaNdiNg tHe ChAnGe (MoSTLY fOr THe GuYS..LISTEN!!)
WhEn pEopLe GrOw oR dRiFt aPaRt wHat tHey rEaLLy mEaN iS tHaT tHeY jUsT dOn’T uNdErsTanD tHeIr pArtNer wELL eNouGh.. YoU feLL iN LoVe wItH tHis pErsOn bUt nOw tHeY sEeM tO hAvE cHanGeD bEyoNd reCogNitIoN.. FiRsT oF aLL tAkE a LoNg hArD LoOk aNd yOu wiLL fiNd tHat pErSoN yOu feLL fOr, Is sTiLL tHeRe.. ThE tRraiTs yOu aDmiRed aRe sTiLL tHeRe, thE fAcE tHaT yOu aDoREd sTiLL LeAvEs yOu bReAThLeSS aND mAKeS yoUr HeARtbEAt pOp, hER KInD hEArT StiLL mAkeS yoU lOOk In aWEd eVERyTYm sHE taLkS aBOuT heR dAy.. bUt pERhaPs WHY It sEEmS So dIfFEreNt iS bEcAUsE iT mAy jUsT bE uNdEr a fEw nEw LaYerS/pRIorITiEs.. TRY aNd UNDERSTAND wHy yOuR pArtNer hAs cHanGe aNd wHy tHeiR nEw wAy iS sO iMpoRtaNt tO tHeM.. SHOW aN iNtErEst iN hOwEvER sHOrT yOuR cOnVeRSAtIOnS mIGhT bE aNd aSk yOuR pArtNer GEntLY tO eXpLaIn tHeiR fEeLinGs tO yOu.. ThE fiRst sTeP tO rE-coNneCtiNg iS tO cOmmUniCatE..EvEN iF tHEre’S nOT mUCh tO sAy..

Re-Connecting (iMpORtAnT..dOnT bLiNk Boysss!!)
If yOu cAn fEeL yOuRseLf dRiFtiNg aParT fRoM yOuR pArTnEr yOu nEed tO pLuG tHe gAp bEfoRe yOu gEt tOo fAr aWaY.. YoU neEd tO wOrk aT tRyiNg tO iNvoLve yOuRseLf iN tHeiR nEw LiFe aNd tHeY neEd tO woRk oN aCcePtiNg yOu iN.. If thEy hAvE a nEw hoBBie tHeN gIvE iT a gO, yOu mIghT liKe iT..oR sUck aT iT bUT tHaTS bESiDE tHe pOInT cOs yOuR dOiNg it wItH heR… If iT iS a wOrK tHiNg tHen oFFer yOuR hOnESt oPiNiOn tO wHaTeVER sHE’s sAyInG..eVeN iF iT gETs FrUStRATiNg WhEN ShE GeTS aNNOyED aT whAt yOUr sUgGEsTInG, tRUsT mE jUSt aPoLOgIsE aNd mOvE oN..  By dOiNg tHiS iT dOesN’t mEaN yOu aGreE wiTh tHeIr VieWs oR wiLL LiKe tHe tHinGs tHaT tHeY dO, bUt iT shOws tHat yOu aRe mAkiNg aN eFFoRt fOr tHe sAkE oF yOuR reLaTioNshIp.. In tHe sAmE wAy, gEt yOuR pArtNer iNvoLveD iN yOuR sIdE oF LiFe, LikE pRobLeMs wHIcH yOU cAn  BoTH sIt DoWn aNd tALk AbouT, oR bEtTeR yET tHe gOOD eVeNtS tHaT hApPenD oN yOuR dAy.. tHe tRicK iS, wHeN yoU takE hEr mInD aWAy FrOM hER pRoBLeMs fOr jUsT a LiL bIt, eVen fOR a mInuTe Or So, tRuST mE, fOr ThAT bRiEF mOMent sHe SmILeD, hER pRobLeMS wAs fOrGoTTeN ThANkS To You.. It iS eSSeNtIaL tO fiNd aCtiVitIeS thAt yOu bOth eNjOy eVeN thOugH iT miGhT nOT HaPPen muCh NoWAdAys,sO wHeN iT dOes, eVeN iF iT’s jUsT siTTinG dOwN tO diNNer toGetHer, oR tAkInG A nICe LoNG WaLK bY tHe bEaCh LookInG At The bEAuTiFuL nIgHT sKy.. iT dOnT mATTeR aS lOnG aS yOu cAn shAre iN eaCh oThEr’S cOMpANy..

tHis iS fOr yOU sHInINg sTAr

>>YoU mAy hAvE tO cReaTe a wHoLe nEw bLanK cAnvAs oF hOw yOu iNteRacT aNd LiVe yOuR LiVes bUt tHeRe iS noThiNg tO sAy tHat tHe nEw caNvaS wOn’t tUrN oUt tO bE a maSteRpiEce.

Moving Forward( fInALe…bUt jUSt aS iMPorTaNt!!)
WhEn yOu hAvE gRoWn aPart fRoM yOuR pArTneR iT cAn tAkE a LoNg LONG tiMe tO gEt bAck oN tRaCk.. Be pATieNt wItH eAcH oTheR aNd yOuRseLf aNd tAkE bAbY sTePs tOwArdS yOuR gOaL oF rE-coNnEcTinG aS a cOupLe/ CoMpaNIOn .. If yOu dEciDe tHat tHe gAp iS jUst tOo wiDe tO bRidGe aNd yOu hAve dOne aLL yOu cAn tHen iT miGht bE tiMe tO mOve oN aLoNe.. ThiS iS a biG sTep aNd mAy bE scAry bUt yOu dEseRvE tO bE hApPy aNd LiVe yOuR LiFe tHe wAy yOu wAnT…

GrOwiNg oR dRiFtiNg aParT cAn bE diFFicuLt tO dEaL wiTh aS yOu feEL LiKe yOu’Ve lOst tHe OnLy pErsOn wHo yOu cAN tRuLY saY..” i LOVE YOU.. I WANNA MARRY YOU”… BuT By wOrkInG tOgeTheR aNd mAkiNg tHe eFForT tO rE-cOnNecT iN yOuR nEw LiFe, yOu cAn saLvaGe tHe reLatIonShiP..AnD mOvE oN iNtO a pERfeCT fUtUre WiTh hEr…

qUOtE to nOtE : “yOu gOttA tAkE ChAnCeS foR tHe ThInGs yOu CaRE About”

Ya…Im BAck Writing Boring bLogs Again…bUt..This iS No InsigNificAnt EntrY miNd You…Cos ThIs iS wriTTen fOr SomeOnE wHo Has Just GonE tHrU SHIt…OvEr AnD Over Again..EveRytImE wHen it SeemS tHat ThiNgs Are LookIng OptiMisTiC…THiS iS fOr YoU cHicBiT…ListeN oR IgnOre..Its YouR PeroGatiVe..Let’S BegIn…

 LetS StarT wiTh THe Basic…WhiLe chaNgE aNd uNceRtAinTy hAve aLwaYs beEn a pArt oF LiFe, wHat hAs bEen sHocKing oVer tHe lAst yEar hAs beEn bOth tHe qUanTum aNd suDdeNness oF chAnge. FoR maNy peOpLe wHo wEre cRuiSing aloNg on pLacId wAteRs, tHe wiNd wAs knOcKeD oUt oF tHeIr sAiLs… ThE enTirE LoGic oF dOinG bUsiNesS wAs tUrnEd oN iTs hEad. NoT onLy bUsiNesS, bUt aLso eVerY aSpeCt oF huMaN LiFe hAs bEen iMpaCtEd bY tHe chAnGe. WhAt LiEs aHeaD iS eVeN mOre dYnaMic And uNcErTaiN. I wouLd LiKe tO uSe tHis oPpOrTunIty tO shAre wiTh yoU soMe oF mY oWn gUidIng pRinCipLes oF sTaYinG afLoAt iN a cHanGing WorLd. ThIs iS bAsEd oN mY exPerIenCe iN tHIs cRAZy hARsH LiFe… I hoPe yOu sOMeHoW wiLL fiNd tHeM uSefuL…

nUmERO uNO,
 yOu gOtTa bE aLeRt fOr tHe fiRst siGns oF “change”..very importanrt!!.
ChaNge dEscEnds oN eVerY oNe eQuaLLy..(YES!! EQUALLY!! sAY It WitH me,,E.Q.U.A.L.L.Y.!!) ; iT iS jUsT tHat sOmE rEaLizE iT fAstEr. SoMe cHaNgEs aRe suDden..BAM!!.. bUt mAny oThErs aRe gRadUal..tHIs WHoLe yEaR iS A VeRY GooD EXaMpLe..IsNt It? . WhiLe suDden chAnges gEt aTTenTioN bEcaUse tHey aRe dRamAtic, iT iS tHe gRadUal cHanGes tHat aRe iGnoRed tiLL iT iS tOo LaTe… hAvE YoU hAarD oF tHe sToRy oF tHe fRog iN boiLiNg wAtEr…? tHiS iS HoW iT GOeS… If tHe tEmpEraTurE of tHe wAteR iS sUdDenLy iNcReaSed, tHe fRog rEaLizEs iT aNd jUmpS oUt oF tHe wAteR. But iF tHe tEmpEraTure iS vEry sLowLy iNcreAsed, oNe dEgrEe aT a tiMe.. tHe fRog dOes nOt rEaLize iT tiLL iT bOiLs tO dEatH… YoU mUst dEveLopE yOur oWn earLy wArniNg sYstEm, wHiCh wArnS yOu oF chAngEs aNd caLLs yoUr aTTenTion tO iT. In tHe cAse oF chAngE, bEing foRewArnEd iS bEiNg foReaRmeD… 

sECoNd,
anTicipAte “change” eVen wHen tHinGs aRe gOiNg riGhT…
MoSt pEopLe wAit fOr sOmeThiNg tO gO wRoNg bEfoRe tHey tHinK oF chAnge..>>iN tHIs nOtE..iM pROuD To sAy ThAT YoU eXCeL weLL In tHIs cATEgOrY..wHy BeCAuSe..ivE HEARD..SEEN…eVEn EXPERIENCED iT aLL WiTh YoU, dEALiNG WiTh cRAppY laST mINuTe pEOpLe dEMaNdInG cHAnGES iN tHEIr $%&%^ ..soOOOooo PROUD OF yA chickbit It iS LikE gOing tO tHe dOctOr fOr a cHecK uP oNLy wHen yOu aRe sEriOusLy siCk oR thiNkiNg oF maiNtaInInG yoUr eXpensIve veHicLe onLy wHen iT bReaKs doWn… The bigGest eNemY oF fUtuRe suCCesS is pAst sUccEss..yES iTs tRUe!!. .WhEn yOu suCCeeD, yOu fEeL thAt yOu mUst bE dOinG soMetHing riGht fOr iT tO haPPen. But wHen tHe pAraMeTers fOr suCCess cHanGe, dOinG tHe sAme tHinGs mAy oR mAy nOt cOntInuE tO LeaD tO suCCesS.. GuArd aGainSt coMpLAcEncy aLL tHe tiMe MY pRECiOUs cHIcBit… CoMpLacEncy mAkeS yOu bLinD tO tHe eArLy siGnaLs fRoM tHe eNviRonMeNt thAt sOmeThiNg iS gOinG wRoNg… oR mIgHT gO wROnG..

LastLy…

rEspEct yOuRseLf…siMpLe aS ThAt… 
ThE woRLd wiLL rEwaRd yOu oN yOur sUccEsSes… SuCCess rEquiRes nO eXpLanAtiOn aNd fAiLuRe pErMitS nO OnE.. BuT yOu nEed tO rEspEct yOurSeLf eNouGh sO tHat yOuR seLf-coNfidEncE rEmAins inTacT oN wHetHeR yOu suCCeeD aNd tOUcH thAt cLeaR bLuE sKy oR fAiL aNd hIT tHAt cONcREtE waLL aT 100m/hr… If yOu sucCeeD 90 pEr cEnt oF tHe tiMe, yOu aRe dOing fiNe… If yOu aRe suCCeeDing aLL tHe tiMe, yOu shOuLd aSk yOurSeLf iF yOu aRe tAkiNg eNouGh riSks… If yOu dO nOt taKe enOugH riSks, yOu mAy aLsO bE LosiNg oUt oN mAny oPPorTunItiEs… ThiNk tHroUgh bUt tAke tHe pLunGe..aLL tHE WaY hoLdInG oN tIGhTly tO my haNd… If sOme tHinGs dO gO wRonG, LeArn fRom tHem… sPArE Me a mINUtE oF yOUr TiMe tO LiSTEn tO tHIs iNtEreStiNg sToRy i cAME aCrOSS sOme tiMe aGo wHiLe waItInG foR sOMeOnE tO fInISh sOmETHinG on thE eArLY wEE moRnINg at cANtONmEnT roAd..  :

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well… The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do… Finally he decided the animal was old and the well needed to be covered-up anyway so it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey… He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him… They all grabbed a shovel and begin to shovel dirt into the well… At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly... Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down... A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well and was astonished at what he saw.. With every shovel of dirt that fell on his back, the donkey was doing some thing amazing!!. He would shakeit off and take a step up. As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up.. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and totted off!

EvEntUaLLy aLL tHe piEcEs wiLL fALL iNtO pLaCe, uNtiL tHen..weLL JuST LauGh aT tHe cOnfUsiOn, LiVe fOr tHe mOmeNt aNd kNow tHat eVerYtHinG hApPens fOr a rEasOn.. BeCAusE SoMewHeRe aLoNg tHe cOurSe oF LiFe, yOu LeArn aBouT yOuRsELf aNd rEaLiZe tHeRe sHouLd nEveR bE rEgReTs, onLy a LifeLong aPprEciaTion oF tHe chOicEs yOu’vE mAde.      TRUtH Is.. It’S nOt wHeRe yOu cAmE fRom.. iT’s wHerE yOu’Re gOiNg..wHer iT TakEs You… It’S nOt wHat’S oN yOu.. bUt WHAT’S IN YOU… It’S nOt wHaT yOu’Re dRiViNg.. iT’s wHaT dRiVes yOu.. To eXCeL… AnD FInALLy.. It iS nOt wHat yOu aRe My StAr.. bUt wHat yOu aRe wiLLing tO mAke oF yOuRseLf…

pUtTInG It In SImPLe PeRspECTivE…If nOthIng cHanGed.. tHeRe’D bE nO bUttErfLies… LeTs ADmIT It.. "LIFE is.. chaos, chaos is LIFE…aGrEEd? CoNtRoLLiN hOw LiFe TAKeS YoU iS aN iLLusIoN… sO EnJoy yOurSeLf… ThEse aRe tHe gOOd oLd dAys yOu’Re gOiNg tO mIss iN tHe yEaRs aHeAd. ThEse aRe tHe dAys yOu wiLL wiSh tO bE abLe tO LiVe aGaiN eVen iF iT wErE onLy fOr a bRieF mOmEnt…uNdeR The BeAuTIfuL StArS..

sErIoUSLy.. It’S fUnNy hOw oNe mOmEnt cAn cHanGe yOur eNtiRe LiFe… It’S sCary hOw dEciSioNs wE mAke tOdaY cAn cOme aNd bITes us iN ThE ArSe fOr tHe rEst oF oUr LiFe… SoMeTimEs yOu hAvE tO sTop aNd rEaLIsE, yOu aRe nOt gOinG tO LiVe fOrEvEr… EnJoy LiFe wHiLe yOu hAve tHe tiMe, bE yOuNg, tHiNk sMaRt, sTaY tRue, aNd jUsT foLLow yOur hEaRt… TaKe nOthInG bUt PicTuRes… LeAvE nOtHiNg bUt fOOtpRiNts… KiLL nOtHiNg bUt tImE…(dAmN..i JusT rEAlIzEd thAt Im SOundiNg ALoT LiKe A haLLmARK gREEtINg CArd..dAyYumMMmMM!!..)**Bb sMiLe*..

aNywAy..tHing Is..So oFteNtiMes iT haPPens, wE aLL Live oUr LiFe iN cHaiNs.. aNd wE nEvEr eVen kNow wE’vE aLwAys hAd The kEy… wATeveR iT Is YoU jUST GoTTa tAkE sOme cHanCes.. yOu hAve tO riSk lOsiNg iT aLL.. yOu hAve tO cLosE yOur bEaUtIfUL eYes aNd tAkE tHaT leAp of faItH beCauSe iT jUst mIgHt bE wOrtH tHe faLL… EvEn if iT hUrtS..And Boy..WILL IT HURT BAD!!.. iT wiLL bE a LesSoN LeaRnEd… "Life".. iS aBout AcCEPtInG cHaNgES.. soMetImEs iT’s pAinFuL, sOmEtiMes it’s beAutIfuL, bUt mOst oF tHe tiMe iT’s wOrTh iT…
You cAnnOt aLwAys wAit fOr tHe pErfEct TiMe.. soMetiMes yOu mUsT dAre tO jUmP… SoMeTimEs tHeRe iS nO nExt tiMe.. nO tImE OuT.. nO sEcoNd cHanCes… SoMeTimEs iT’s nOw oR nEvEr.. mAKe It Or BrEAk It… SoMeTimEs yOu jUst hAve tO dO wHat yOu hAve tO dO…

YoUr wHoLe LiFe iS aBouT tO cHanGe iN a wAy tHat iT wiLL nEvEr bE tHe sAme aGain mY dEaR StAR.. AnD ThE EarLieR You AcCEpt It…tHe bETTer YOu’LL Be REaDy FoR it.. yoU’rE oPenInG a nEw cHapTer, aNd yOu hAve tO gIve A pRopEr gOOdbYe tO tHe oLd oNeS…YoU doN’t wAnt tO miSS thEse mOmeNts.. eVen tHe sAd oNes, bEcaUse yOu’LL nEver gEt tHeM bAck aGaiN… So Let Ur hAIr DoWn aNd eNjoY tHis tiMe.. Let iT wAsh oVer yOu sO tHat yOur mEmoRieS oF iT aRe sTroNg… SoMeTimEs tHeRe aRe tHiNgs iN oUr LiFe tHat aReN’t mEaNt tO sTay… SoMetImes cHanGe mAy nOt bE whAt wE wAnt… SomEtiMes cHanGe iS wHat wE reALLy nEEd. AnD soMetiMes sAyiNg gOOdbyE is tHe hArdEst tHinG yOu tHinK yOu’LL eVer hAve tO dO.. bUt sOmeTimEs iT’s sAyiNg ‘heLLo aAaiN’ tHat bReaKs yOu dOwn aNd mAkes yOu tHe mOst vuLneRabLe pErsOn yOu’LL eVer kNow…  oFtEn sOmetiMes cHanGe iS tOO mUch tO bEar, bUt mOst oF tHe tiMe cHanGe iS tHe onLy tHing sAviNg yOur LifE….

tRuTh Be toLd..ThEre aRe 2 tHinGs, wHiCh pRevEntS uS fRom aChiEviNg oUr dReaMs… ThE fIrSt iS tHe beLiEf tHat tHey aRe iMpoSsibLe aNd tHe sEcoNd iS seEing tHem mAde pOssibLe bY tHe tWist oF tHe whEeL oF fOrtUne wHen wE LeAst eXpEct iT… FoR aT thAt mOmEnt, aLL oUr fEars RisE tO tHe sUrfAce..aNd tHe fEaR oF suDDenLy sEttiNg oFF aLoNg a rOad hEaDinG gOd kNowS wHeRe sETs In.. tHe fEar oF a LiFe fuLL oF nEw chALLenGes.. tHe fEar oF lOsiNg fOreVer aLL tHat iS fAmiLiaR…tO yOu SomeHoW…

eVeNtUALLy yoU leArn ThaT MaYbE hApPinEss DidN’t hAve tO bE aBouT tHe biG.. swEEpiNg cIrcUmsTanCes oR aBouT hAviNg eVerRtHinG iN yOur LiFe faLL iNtO pLaCe pUUrFecTLy….. MaYbE jUsT mAyBe.. iT wAs aBouT sTriNgiNg tOgEthEr A bUnCh of smALL pLeAsUrEs… LiKe sTaYin HoMe and watching a Miss. Universe contest..aNd gOinG ."WaH ..ms sOutH AFrIcA SooOOo CaNtIkk… " OR.."I CaNt BeLieVe Ms CHInA WOn Bb….uRgh!!" *Bb smiLe*… MaYbe hApPinEss wAs jUst a MaTTer oF tHe SiMpLe pLeASurES of InDuLgIng oN A tUb Of cOfFee ice CrEaM FRom HaGen DaZZ..*oohhHhHHHhh yUmMy*..  tHIng Is..wHaT YoU MaY NoT rEaLiSe YeT iS ThAT MaYbE eVerYboDy hAd tHe sAme aLLotTed mEasUre oF haPPinEss wiThiN eaCh dAy… MaYbe iT diDn’t mAttEr iF yOu wErE a wOrLd-fAmoUs hEarTthRob oR a pAinFul gEEk… MaYbe iT dIdN’t maTTer iF yoUr fRieNd wAs pOssibLy gETTin hItCheD tHis YeAr… MayBe yOu jUst gOt tHroUgH iT rEALiZInG eVERybOdy YoU oNcE sHaReD A cLaSS WItH aRe STaRTiNG A FamiLy of TheIr Own… MaYbe sUb-cOnCiOuSLy THAT wAs aLL yOu cOuLd aSk fOr….

..It’S fuNny hOw tHe wOrLd cHangEs sOmeTimEs, hOw tHe sTreEts yOu wALkEd yOur eNtiRe LiFe sEem dArkEr.. CoLdEr. HoW tHe siLenCe iSn’t sO qUiEt aNymOre… How eYes yOu’vE baReLy eVen nOtiCed nOw lOOk aT noThiNg bUt YOU, hOw tHe waLk hOme eVerY niGht iS nO loNgeR rOutInE.. bUt… a VICTORY…yOu NoE WhAt I meAn..*wInkX*.. AnD thEn yOu beGin tO woNdeR…maYbe iT’s nOt tHe wOrLd tHat’s cHanGed… MaYbe iT’s jUst yOu aNd tHen, sUdDdenLy..BAM!!!…yoU bEgin tO woNder aLL oVer aGain..wHy LiFE jUsT SeEmS sO EaSy ARoUnd Him…*HiNt hInt*

As tIme gOes bY, Life hAs a wAy oF reArrAngIng iTseLf… PeOpLe enTer yOur LifE, aNd inEviTabLy.. thEy LeaVe aS weLL.. OthErs wiLL rE-enTer tHrouGh a doOr wE thOught wAs cloSed… ThiNgs hAve A tEndEncy tO haPpen tHat cAn tUrn yOur wOrLd uPsiDe dOwn.. You’LL coMe tO rEaLize eVenTuaLLy.. tHat eVen tHouGh tHinGs aRe diFFerEnt, nOt mUcH hAs cHanGed..yoU’rE sTiLL tHE MosT bEaUtIfuL StAr oN ThaT bEaUtIfuL nIgHt SkY…

No oNe aSks fOr tHeiR LifE tO cHaNge..nO One…WeLL.. Not really. But it does… ThE biG mOmeNts aRe gOinG tO cOmE.. cAn’T hELp tHat… It’S wHat yOu dO afTerWarDs tHat rEaLLy cOuNts… ThAt’s wHen yOu fiNd oUt wHo yOu aRe..yOu tHiNk ItS hArD dEaLiNG With LifE At HomE Now??..wAit TiLL You StArT Ur oWn bUSInESS..tHeN You’ll fInaLLy UndERsTaNd WhY YoU’vE BeeN pUt ThRoUgH aLL This CrAP..aNd YoU’LL rEaLiZeD ThAt It WaS To PrepARe YoU For YouR LeGaCy…fOr yOuR eMPirE..

ChAnge iS nEveR eAsy.. yOu fiGht tO hoLd oN, yOu fIghT tO Let gO… TiMe iS tHe bEst aNd wOrSt tHinG wE’vE gOt… BeCausE nOthInG LasTs fOreVer - bUt tHen aGaiN.. notHinG eVer sTaYs tHe sAme… We cAn nEver tUrn bAck tHe pAges oF tiMe.. thOuGh wE mAy WisH tO rELivE a hAppy MomEnt, oR sAy gOOdbYe jUst oNe LaSt tImE.. wE nEver cAn, beCauSe tHe sAnDs oF tiMe cOntInuE tO faLL, aNd wE cAn’t tUrn tHe hOurgLass oVer…GroWing uP haPpens iN a heArtbEat… One day yOu’re iN diApeRs.. neXt dAy yOu’vE dIsCovErEd tHat sOmEtHInG Is GrOwInG iN BeTWeeN uR LeGs..aNd BeIn A Boy yOu’d gEt aLL eXCiTeD whILe gOin.."heHe hEhE"..sHHePisHLY… But tHe mEmoRies oF chiLdhOod sTay wiTh yOu fOr tHe LoNg hAuL…

tHeRe wAS ThIs BoOk by a pHiLosOpHicAL aUtHor..tItLeD "cHaNges".. aNd TheRE wAs A pARtIcULaR pHrAsE in ThAT bOoK tHaT StAyS WitH me tILL tOdAy aLwAys mAkiN Me sTrOnG wIth ItS sTrOng MeAnIng….ThIs WaS How It SounDeD..>>

" remember a place… a town… a house like a lot of other houses. A yard like a lot of other yards… On a street like a lot of other streets. And the thing is… after all these years, I still look back… With wonder."…

GrOwiNg uP iS nEveR eAsy eVen foR me… YoU hoLd oN tO tHinGs tHat wEre.. You woNder wHat’S tO cOme… BuT tHen oNe niGhT, yOu’LL knOw iT wiLL bE tIme tO LeT gO oF wHat hAd bEEn, aNd lOOk aHeAd tO whAt wOuLd bE… OthEr daYs.. nEw dAys.. daYs tO cOmE… ThE tHinG iS, wE dOn’t hAve tO hAte eAch oTheR fOr gEtTing oLdEr.. We jUst hAve tO foRgiVe oUrseLveS… For gRoWinG uP.. It’S hArd tO acCepT, bUt yOu cAn’t cHanGe tHe pAst… YoU cAn’t gO bAck aNd maNipuLatE tHinGs tO tHe wAy yOu waNteD tHem tO hApPen, bEcaUse LiFe wOuLd bE meAniNgLess aNd bOriNg aNd jUst nOt woRth LivIng.. BuT yOu cAn cHanGe tHe fUtuRe aNd tHat’S tHe bEauTifuL tHiNg aBoUt LiFe.. YeS, yOu wiLL mAke mIstAkeS..bUt sOOo wHaT?!. AnD yAda yAdA.. yOu wiLL haVe bAd dAyS.. bUt aS LoNg aS yOu Let tHe pAst Go, yOu’LL haVe sUch a gOrgEous aNd bRigHt fUturE ahEad oF yOu, kNowIng tHat tHinGs wEre mEant tO haPpEn.. KnoWing tHat eAch dAy yOu wiLL leArn soMetHing sO thAt yOu kEEp gRoWinG tO bE a beTTer pErsOn…

I wOndEr iF oNe dAy whEn yOu lOOk bAck oN yoUr LiFe yOu’LL sEE iT’s nOt aLwaYs aBout tHe biG pIctUre… It’s rEaLLy aLL abOut tHe mOmeNts aNd maYbe oNe dAy yOu’ll lOOk bAck aNd stRing aLL thOse mOmeNts toGetHer aNd tHen yOu’LL reaLize wHen yOu aDD thEm aLL uP.. yoUr LifE iS mOre mEaNinGful tHan yOu cOuLd hAve dReaMed…

>>I’ve LiveD iN tHis pLaCe aNd I kNow aLL tHe faCes… EaCh oNe is difFerEnt, bUt tHey’Re aLwaYs tHe sAme.. ThEy mEan mE nO hArM bUt iTs tImE tHat I fAce iT; thEy’LL nEvEr aLLow mE tO chAnGe… BUt.. I neVer dReaMed hOme wouLd eNd uP whEre I dOn’t beLong… I’m mOviNg oN.<<.. anOTheR phRaSe FrOm "ChAnGEs"..

rEmembeR hOw yOu sTaRTEd oUt in kiNdeRgArtEn tHinKinG yOu cAn bE anYtHinG yOu waNt tO bE..eVen ThOugH It MeANs bLiNdInG oNE eYe oF A pItYFuL lIl’ BoY WhO puLLs yOuR pOnY TAiL..ya..yOu CaN SuUrErRe Be ANyTHInG HUH..yOu  BuLLy?!! *bb sMiLe*… AnD bY tHe tiMe yOu gEt hEre, yOu’vE LoSt aLL tHat fEeLing.. We’Ve aLL sTarTed tO bELieVe wHatEver oUr fRieNds oR oUr pAreNts hAve tOLd uS abOut wHat wE cAn aChiEve iN LiFe aNd wHo wE cAn bE… AnD wE’vE ToTALLy foRgoTTen aBout thAt pOssIbiLiTy wE hAd wHen wE wErE yOunGer…

ThE tUrnIng pOinT iN tHe pRocEss oF gRowIng uP iS wHen yOu dIscOver tHe cOre oF stRenGth wIthIn… YoU sTaRt LiFe wIth A cLeAn sLaTe.. ThEn yOu bEgIn tO mAke yOuR mArk. YoU fAce dEciSioNs, mAkE cHoiCes. YoU kEep mOviNg fOrwArd.. BuT sOoNer oR lAtEr tHerE coMes a TiMe wHeRe yOu lOOk bAck oVer wHeRe yOu hAvE bEen… aNd wOnDer wHo yOu rEaLLy aRe… EveRytHing cHanGes eVenTuaLLy. ThAt’s jUst tHe wAy LiFe iS. ANd yOu hAve nO cOnTroL oVer iT. SuDdenLy pEopLe yOu tHouGht wOuLd aLwAys bE tHeRe disAppEar. PeOpLe dIe, tHey mOve aWay, aNd tHey gRow uP…As wE grOw uP, wE LeaRn tHat eVen tHeN oNe pErsOn tHat wAsn’T suPPosEd tO eVer lEt yOu dOwn pRobAbly wiLL.. YoU wiLL haVe yOur hEaRt bRokEn pRoBaBLy mOre tHan oNce aNd iT’s hArdEr eVeRy tIme… aND tO Be SPeaKiNG iN GeNeRaL tO aLL ya pEopLE out tHeRe.. You’LL bReaK heArtS tOo, sO reMemBer hOw iT feLt wHen yOurs wAs brOkeN… You’LL hAvE pETTy fiGhtS wiTh yOur bEst fRieNd… You’LL bLaMe a nEw LoVe fOr tHinGs aN oLd oNe dId. You’LL cRy bEcaUse tiMe iS pAsSing tOo fAst, aNd yOu’LL eVenTuaLLy lOse sOmeOne yOu tRuLy LoVe… So taKe tOo mAny pIctUreS.. LauGh tOo mUch.. aNd LoVe LiKe yOu’Ve nEvEr bEen hUrt bEcaUse eVeRy siXty sEcoNds yOu sPenD uPset iS a miNuTe oF haPpiNesS yOu’LL nEver gEt bAck…

"PeOpLe cHanGe" AnD iTs a pArt oF LiFe.. bUt sOmeTimEs iTs eAsiEr tO hoLd oN tO tHe mEmoRieS oF wHo tHey wEre…rAthEr thAn tO reALiZe wHo tHey haVe bEcoMe… ThE reAsoN pEopLe hOLd oNtO meMoRies fOr sO lOng iS beCaUse iT’s tHe onLy tHiNg tHat dOeSn’t chAngE.It hUrts deRply whEn soMeonE yOu kNow bEcoMes sOmEonE yOu kNew…dOEsNt iT?

oN A eNdInG NotE..i jUsT WaNt To tAkE ThIs oPPoRtUNitY tO teLL yOu tHaT JuSt bEcaUse eVerYthiNg iS diFfeRenT dOesN’t mEan aNytHinG hAs chAngeD.. aS LoNg As yOu beLieVe In YoUr cApAbILiTiEs..aNd kEEpIng ThAt FaIth sTrong in UrSeLf….iN yOur fAMiLy..In…me..*sMiLe*..nOtHinG Is bEYond gRaSp..

oDe tO tHE "NoRth" StAr..

P.s. i JUsT WaNNa AdD..tO EVeRYOne tAkING tiME ouT To ReAD This SPeCIaL bLog ThaT Im DoInG foR  "noRth" Star.. tHanK YoU fOr ReADinG..i kNow ThIs MaY Be wAy OfF my NoRMaL bLog aBout LOVE and rELaTiOnSHip..bUt rEsT ASSuReD iL UpdAtE aLL Ya LoVEbIrds wItH MorE aDvIcE AbOUt.. "lOve"(eVeRybOdy Go..aWwwwwWW)..

dAYuMM..gOt TEsT nOw…gOtTa Go.. CheErS…

eXpERtS ofTeN TeLLs yOu ThAt LoVe LaSts pAtiEnT.. aNd aLwaYs rEmAiNs kiNd…hOW tRUe Is ThAt You MaY aSk..Well LeT Me ShArE WitH aLL oF yA..fRom PeRSonAl ExPeRieNcE..

wHat rEmAinS uNsaId iS tHaT tHeSe tHeoRiEs aRe oFtEn tEsTeD aT 2am oN tHe wOrsT niGhT of yOuR LiFe.wORSt…wOrSt DAy of YouR eNtIrE LIfE… wHeN aLL yOu’D rAtHeR dO is sLeEp… oR tHaT yOu wiLL bE fOrCeD tO cALm tRaNqUiLity wHiLe yOu KiNdLy LiStEn tO tHe sAmE riDiCuLoUs, aNd eViDeNtLy unSoLvAbLe diLeMma oVer aNd oVer aGaiN..qUeSTiOnS LIkE.."Did I dO tHe RIGhT tHInG ToNyTE?".."WaS I bEIn OvERLy HaRSh ToWARdS HeR tOnYtE?".."wAS I JuST pLAiN FOOlISh BY tAKIn A StEP WhIcH WoULD oBVIoUSlY DIsSAPOINt HeR..wATeVER yOuR rEASoN MAYbE..jUSTIFiED..or rIdIcUlOUs..". aNd tHe aDviCe yOu’D diE tO oFFer mUsT bE wIthHeLd in fAvOr of noDDinG sYmPaThEtIcaLLy…

LoVe.. dEcLaRes iTs pLaCe iN yOuR LiFe wHeN yOu wAtcH tHem WaLk aWay WhEn YoU STAnD BeSIdE THeM..TO See tHEm LooK AwAy WhEn yOu TrY To GaZE uPoN tHEiR EyEs..hOPiNg To TrANSmIT A SILeNt MeSSAgE To ThEm ThAt tHeY mEAn ThE wOrLD tO yOu.. oR jUsT trYin tO gIVe tHem a smiLe aS a sIGn OF coNtEnT wHeN yOu sAw hOw bEauTifuL thEy lOOkEd oN tHat cLoUdY earLy mOrNiNg..wHeN yOur eYeS couLd sEe nOThInG bUt tHem..lOoKiNg lIkE a priNcEss aS tHey truLy iS…, oNLy tO rEaLize tHaT yOuR hEaRt iSn’t jUsT bRoKen, tHeY’rE tAkiNg iT wIth tHem…

LoVe.. iS tHe iNaBiLiTy nOt tO bEg tHaT pErsOn tO nEvEr LeAvE yOuR sIdE… eVeN fOr oNe dAy or niGht..insTeAd..teLliNg tHeM..yoU’D do aNytHiNg for tHeM evEn iF iT mEanS sAcrIfIcING yOuR ONw HaPpiNnEs fOr tHem..jUst tO sEe tHeM fLauNt tHaT bEaUtifuL sMiLe tHe wHoLe nYtE lONg..fRee frOM prObLemS..fRee froM coMpLicatIoNs….

LoVe… tAkEs tHe fLaWs tHat yOu’D kiLL oVeR aNd tUrNs tHeM iNtO aN aDDicTivE cHaRm yOu’d kiLL fOr… LoVe mEaNs sTeALiNg cLoThEs oFF oF sOmEoNe eLsE’s fLoOr oR fRom iNsiDe sOmeOne eLse’s cLosEt LiKE a SwEaTeR tHaT bEarS a diStinCtiVe sCeNT oF tHat sOMeoNE.. tO wEar LatEr bEcaUse iTs tHe cLosEst tHiNg yOu’Ve gOt tHaT rEseMbLes a hUg fRoM tHEm…..iT mIgHt seem tHat iM nOT mAkIn senSe wiTh mY exampLes..buT thInK hArD abouT iT..eVEntuALLy yOu’ll see my poInT…

LoVe… mEaNs tHat aNgEr aNd sNit fiTs bEcoMe yOur oNe niGht sTanDs.. wHiLe fOrGivEneSs, coMmiTtmEnt, cOmpAssion, aNd LoyALty aRe gIvEn pErmEnaNt rOOms in yOur hEaRt..cOs shOuLdn’T aLL tHis mAttEr iNsTEad oF oNe MoMeNT of foLLY?..a MoMeNT oF bAd decIsiOn-MakinG?..i TruLy hOpe nOt..i truLy aM sorrY..trULy… iM nOT asKiNG to tuRn baCk tiMe cOs iD rAtHer expEriEnCe tHe pAin Of a bLeediNg heArT nOw tHen LatEr…

LoVe… iS tHe mOmEnt yOu ReaLize tHat a buLLet oR a bLow tAken iS tHe LeaSt tHis pErsOn dEseRvEs fRom yOu.. ThEy shouLdNt Be mAdE tHe rooTY of yoUr probLemS iNstEad tHe rootS of yOur soLutiON….

LoVe iS wHen NotHiNg cOuLd dAmAge, aLter, or haLt tHe tiDe of FeeLinGs….eVen hEaRing tHem teLL yOu ”NO..yOu cAnT sEe mE coS i onLy gOt 5 mInUtEs tO spArE…” bUt whAt tHey shouLd kNow iS ..iD tAkE 5 mInUTEs of yoUr PreCiouS tiMe..anYtiMe..rAtHer than a whoLe day oF mIssIn tHem terribLy…

LoVe… fOrCes yOu tO fInd iN yoUrseLf tHe iMpoSsibLe aBiLitY tO reLeaSe tHem iNto cHaNgE…eVen wHeN iT mEaNs tHey’LL diScoVer INFINITE hApPinEsS iN sOmEonE eLse’s aRms… cos iF tHaTs wHaT iT tAkEs tO seE tHem HapPy,tHen tHats exActLy..WhAt yoU’d giVE..bUt dONT mIstAkE saCriFiCe fOR cHaRiTY..cOs nOthINg cHaNgeS…yOuR uNdenyiNg LoVe aNd uNcomProMisiNg cARe for tHem wiLL nEvEr cHANge…nEvEr…

LoVe… tuRns aWaY wHen cAsTinG bLaMe… iT tUrNs oUtwArDs wHen sEarChing fOr MeAniNg iN Life… iT LisTens tO tHe tAinT oF pEssiMism aNd teRRibLe dOuBt, yEt iN tHe eNd seEs oPtiMisM’s rEasOniNg aNd cHoOses iNstEaD tO rEinVeSt iN cOnCePts LoNg aBanDonEd…

LoVe pRoDucEs fEaRs yOu nEvEr kNew eXisTed aNd tErRoRs tOo wOndErfUL tO dEsCriBe… iT sTaNdS oN cLiff’S eDgE, dAngEr’s pEak, niGhTmAre’s vEraNda, aNd yEt fiNds wArmTh oF coMfoRt aS it iS wHerE tHey aRe aNd sO yOu’LL chOOse tO sTaY… aNd LoVe gRoWs cRazIer eVerY dAy aS yOu bEcoMe mOre aNd mOre aWarE oF aLL yOu aRe wiLLing tO sAcRiFice iN tHeIr nAme…foR tHeiR smiLe…

…OnLy theIr PC smiLe….

tO yA’aLL LoVeFooLs..LiSTeN Up…yA mIgHT bEnEFIt FRoM aLL oF ThIs>>..

LoVe..Yes..L.O.V.E….its That SamE toPic aGaIN..*smiLe*.. iS tHe mOst cOst-EffEcTivE mEdiCal iNsuRanCe pOliCy aNd tHe chEapEst meDiCiNe tHeRe iS..some of ya mIgHt agRee..wHiLe OthErs miGhT bEg tO diFfeR..wHatEveR iT mAy bE… tHeRe iS jUst nO eNdiNg to iTs suPpLy… In fAct, tHe mOre LoVe yOu pUt oUt… tHe mOre iT gEnErAtEs…doNt Ya agRee? For ThE MinOriTy WhO dOnT FuLLy uNderStAnD tHe sTaTeMEnt…It BasIcALLy SayS..ThE mORe eFfOrT yOu GiVe in buiLdiNg uP LoVe…tHe mORe IT gRoWS wItHiN yOu..*DUH*!!.. ANd LogiCaLLy iT aTtRacTs loVe tO itSeLf… It GeNeRatEs jOy, hApPinEss, serEniTy, eSteEm, viBraNcy, kIndNesS, aPpReCiaTiOn, rEspEcT, LauGhTeR, GenErOsiTy, toLeErAnCe, tEnDeRneSs, opEn-MinDedNeSs, ReSpEcT, caRe, aFfEctIon, gOOdneSS, sErVicE, aPpReCiAtioN, cOmPaSsiOn, aWe, wOnDer, bLiss, tRuSt… aLL oF wHiCh hAve bEen pRoVen sCieNtiFicaLLy tO bE gOOd fOr yoUr hEaLth…TruSt mE..It OvErcOmEs EvEry PaiN…*wiNkX*..

My DefIniTiON oF LoVe IS ThAt It mAy bE a tRanSceNdeNt mYstEry aNd a hEaLinG pOwEr tHat cAn reDuCe stReSs, bUt iT iS aLsO a doWn-tO-eaRth eXpErieNce… ThOugH LoVe iS nOt a ReLatiOnsHip..(YeS..THE BIG REVELATION…LOVE IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP!! LEARN IT…!!).., ReLatiOnsHiPs aRe tHe RiGht wAy wE stEp LoVe doWn to eaRth…tO ReaLiTy.. ThIs iS MY IDeaL FAcT - "LoVe nY iTSeLf is PerFect…HumAns aRe nOt".. On sOme dAys iT fEels LiKe a bAd jOke… We WeRe BoRn wITh bRain ceLLs aNd as WE GroW oLdeR We nUrTuRe tHe mEnTaL StrEngtH oF LoGiCaL thInKiNg..sO We hAve tHe aBiLitY tO kNow aN "eLevAtEd LoVe" yEt wE aRe trApPed iN wOunDed eGos aNd bOdiEs oR diStoRtEd cUltUrAl pRogRams tHat PreVeNt uS fRom acHieVinG it… KeEpiNg oUr hEaRts oPen to LoVe, rEmaiNiNg VuLneRabLe, is oUr gReaTeSt aNd MoSt DeaTH-DefyiNg tAsk… We stArTed oUt oPen aNd hAd eVeRy iNtEnTiOn of hArnEsSinG LoVe aNd pUttiNg iT iNto LiFe…bUt aLaS…NoboDy saId LiFe WouLd be LiKe A MoViE sCeNE..DId tHeY?..

StiLL.. MoSt of uS, iN a mOmEnt oF iNtiMaCy oR tRauMa, gOt hUrT oR feLt bEtRaYeD… We feEL ThaT ImmEnSe pAin iN oUr hEaRt aNd oUr hEaRt bEgAn tO reCoiL… It jUst haPpEnEd..BeyOnd Our cOnTrOL..aNd HoW sTrOng wE tHiNk We mAy Be..We jUst cAnT eScaPE tHe inEviTabLe…LeT’s BE ReaLiStiC..TrUtH iS,We aRe aLL a bIt LoVe DisAbLed, veTerAns of aN iNviSibLe wAr wE diD nOt kNow wE wEre iN… Too DaRn mUch oF oUr LiFe iS lOst tO sAfeGuaRdiNg, caLcuLaTinG, pLanNiNg, proJecTiNg, SeaRcHinG, oR WaiTiNg fOr LoVe... ThAtS WhEn DeAtH aRRivEs….And wE bEgAn tO LooK PasT oUr LiFe aNd BegIN tO wONDeR.. wHisPeRiNg QuEstIoNs tO ONe’S SeLF.."WhAt if i …" "MaN..IF oNLy i…" "SiGh…ThAt WAs sUcH aN OppOrTuNiRTy..I sHoUlD HaVe…" "MayBe i sHoULd"…and so on…

my QuEstIon tO yOu IS…"WhAts ThE uSe…"…?…

eNdInG nOtE…

I’vE loOkEd aT liFe frOm boTh siDes nOw..
FrOm wIn aNd LoSe aNd sTiLL sOmEhOw
It’s LiFe’s iLLuSiOns I ReCaLL
I really..tRuLy don’t kNow LiFe aT aLL.

PeOpLe iN heALthy ReLaTioNshIpS hAvE tHe fOLLowInG chAraCteRisTiCs….sO LisTen uP..iF yOur rEadY fOr SoMe HarSh rEalITy CheCks…

1. ThEy aLLow fOr "INDIVIDUALITY"…
2. ThEy eXpeRieNcE bOth "oNenEss" with and "sEpArAtEnEss" fRom aNoThEr…
3. ThEy bRiNg oUt tHe bEst qUaLiTiEs iN sELf aNd aNoThEr…
4. ThEy acCePt eNdiNgs…
5. ThEy eXpErIeNcE pOssibILitiEs tO cHaNge aNd eXpLoRaTiOn…
6. ThEy iNvItE gRoWtH iN tHe oThEr pErSoN…
7. ThEy eXpERiEnCe tRue iNtImAcy In rAnDoM..wItHOut EveN anY pLaNNinG.. =)
8. ThEy fEeL tHe fReEdOm tO aSk hOnEsTLy fOr wHat iS wAntEd…
9. ThEy eXpErIeNce gIvIng aNd rEcEiViNg iN tHe sAme wAy…
10. ThEy dO nOt aTTeMpt tO cHaNgE oR cOnTrOl tHe oThEr…
11. ThEy eNcoUrAgE sELf-sUfFiCieNcY oF pArTnErs…
12. ThEy aCcePt LiMiTaTiOns oF sELf aNd oTHer…
13. ThEy dO nOt sEek uNcOnDiTiOnAL LoVe..tHeY bUiLd iT…
14. ThEy aCCePt aNd rEspEcT cOmMitMeNt…tO eACh oTheR’s pRIORiTieS..
15. ThEy hAvE a hIgH sELf-eStEem…
16. ThEy eXpReSs fEeLinGs sPoNtAneOusLy…
17. ThEy wELcOme cLoSenEss; rIsk VuLneRaBiLiTy…
18. ThEy cArE wItH dEtAcHmEnT…
19. ThEy aFFiRm eQuALiTy aNd pErsOnaL pOwEr oF seLf aNd oTHer..

nOw..i aSk Of yOu rEAdIng ThIs..Do yOu aNd yOur ParTneR hAve aNy of tHe cHaRaCtEriStiCs? Do yOU rEaLLy pRaTicE sUch cHaRaCtEriStiCs iN yOUr ReLaTiOnShIp? Or yOu sImpLy jUst cAn’T bE bOtHeRed abOuT yOuR ReLaTioNsHip?..uNaPPrECIaTin tHe tRue ValUe Of ThAT speCIaL StaR..WhO LiGhTS Up yOuR yOuR dARkESt HOur? wELL..iM HeRe TO tELL yOu..tREaSurE wHaT YoU haVe, Cos OncE iTs GONe..yOu’ll nEvEr oWn It BaCk..

iTs AcTUaLLY qUite SiMpLe…sOmEONe aMaZiNg oNcE ToLd Me.."LOVE iSNt eVERyTHing bb"…sO mY rEBUttAl to tHAt qUOTe iS ClUsTeREd INtO 3 iMpOrTaNt FACtORs AbOuT LOVE..

Love is Accepting.
AccEptAnCe iS LabeLing sOmeOnE aS "JuSt nIcE" aNd hAviNg nO paRtIcuLar dEsiRe tO cHanGe tHem… Who tHey aRe iS pErfEctLy fInE wItH yOu..CrAzY..oR CooKy..(*winkx*).. You pOse nO cOnDiTion oN wHetHer yOu wiLL lOve thEm oR nOt… ThIs iS caLL uNcOnDiTioNal LoVe.. WhEn yOuR LoVe IS coNdItIoNaL, tHe mOmEnT thEy sTeP oUtSiDe yOuR sEt oF conDiTioNs, LOVE eVapOraTes…pROBLeMs..aRISEs..

Love is Appreciating.
ApPreCiaTioN is oNe sTep bEyoNd aCCepTaNcE. ITs wHeN yOuR fOcUs iS oN wHat yOu LiKe aBout aNotHer… We LoOk aT tHeM aNd feEl tHiS sWeEping aPPreCiaTion fOr wHo tHey aRe, thEir jOy, tHeiR iNsiGhTs, thEir huMor, tHeIr cOmPaNiOnsHiP, etc.. WhEn soMeoNe sAys tHey aRe "in love" wiTh aNotHer, thEy mEan tHeir aPPreCiaTioN iS sOOoo fREaKInG eNorMoUs fOr tHis pErsOn tHaT iT cOnSuMeS tHeIr evErY tHouGhT..eVERy aCTiOnS..eVeRY sMILe..eVeRY sECOnD…

Love is Wanting Your Other to Feel Good.
We wAnt tHoSe wE LoVe tO bE hApPy, sAfe, hEaLtHy, aNd fULfiLLed… We wAnt tHem tO fEEl gOOd iN aLL wAys, pHysIcaLLy(esp; when she’s been sooooo sick .. =( ), mentally(WhEnS sHe’S aLL DrAiN uP By WoRK..WoRk..AND MORE WORK!!!ARGH!!).. and emotionally.(MaTtErS of tHE HEaRt..Be iT faMiLY..ReLAtIoNsHIp..Or JuSt LiFe bY iTseLf.)

-Ending Note>>

So strong and so pure,
That nurtured and shared with another..
All tests it will endure..

>>If Love’s a Sweet Passion, why does it torment?
If a Bitter, oh tell me whence comes my content?
Since I suffer with pleasure, why should I complain,
Or grieve at my Fate, when I know ’tis in vain?
Yet so pleasing the Pain is, so soft is the Dart,
That at once it both wounds me, and Tickles my Heart."<<

The wOrdS of a PoeT wHo sAw pAiN coMing foR hiM..yEt hE stiLL stOOd stiLL tO faCe iT cOs hE waS bLindeD bY MaDamE L‘s MesMeriSiNg sMiLe..

"LoVe"..(everyone go…AWWwwWww)… aT fiRsT siGhT iS aN eMoTioNaL conDiTiOn whErEby a pErsOn fEeLs rOmAnTic atTrAcTion fOr a stRaNgEr oN tHe fiRst eNcOuNtEr wiTh tHe sTraNgEr… ThE tErM mAy bE usEd NorMaLLy to rEfEr to a mErE "seXuaL" aTTrAcTiOn oR cRuSh, bUt iT usUaLLy reFeRs tO aCtUaLLy faLLiNg in loVe wiTh sOmEoNe LiteRaLLy tHe vEry fiRst tiMe oNe sEEs hIm Or hEr, aLoNg wiTh tHe deEp dEsiRe to haVe inTiMAte reLatioNsHip wiTh thAt pErsOn… The sTraNgEr mAy or mAy nOt be aWaRe tHaT tHe oThEr peRsOn hAs aNy sUch noTiOn, aNd mAy nOt evEn be aWaRe of tHe oThEr pErsOn’s pResEnce (such as in a crowded place or due to circumstances of status)… SoMeTimEs tWo peOpLe eXpeRieNce tHis pHenOmEnon toWarDs eaCh oThEr at tHe sAme tIme… uSuaLLy wHen tHeIr eYes mEet…aNd whEn thAt haPPenS..eVen if a caR coMes RaciNg toWarDs yA..aLL yOu caN thiNk oF iS..hOw amAziNg hEr smILe iS..nO kiDDin..So pLeaSe yA’aLL daMn LovEfooLs..waTcH wHer yA sTanDiN bEfoRE u gEt caUghT iN a dAzE..!!..

WorDs oF a WiSe PerSoN…>> dOnT eVeR thINk ToO muCh..jUst dO iT..IF iTs rIgHt..iTs rIgHt..If iTs wrOnG…tHen..iLl mAkE iT riGhT..*wInKX*…<<

So My quEstion tO yOu iS…

Do yOu beLieVe iN it? HaVe yOu eXpeRieNce lOvE aT fIrSt siGhT befoRe? DoEs it reaLLy eXist? DoEs yoUr hEaRt pOuNd fAstEr thAn uSuaL wHen yOu mEt tHe oNe? Do yOu mAke ThaT riSkY mOVe tHat miGht jeOrparDisE tHe bEautifUL fRieNdShiP tHat yOu mEticuLously Have buiLd?

My aNsweR to aLL thIs quEstiOn yA’aLL asKin nOw iS……

"tAkE tHat lEaP oF faiTh fOr wiThoUt AttemPts iN LiFe..YoU wiLL NevEr eXperIeNce….MagIc"..

<<  cliche’ some of you may say? well..all i can say is..dO tHe cOrNy dAnCe wItH mE...*winKX*

qUICK qUESTiON To aLL’yA PeOpLE ReADIn THis.."Do yOu rEaLisE wE dOn’T aLwAys eXprEss oUr LoVe."?? LoVe (..evERYonE..OnCe AGaIN PlEASe SAy..aWWwWww….) iS a feELing aNd tHe eXprEsSion of tHat fEeLing is sEpaRatE… It’s An "acTion"..rEMeMbEr ThAT… ThEre’S a pRacTicAl ReaSon wE dOn’t aLwAys eXpRess oUr Love for aNother… AnD It’s aN iSsuE of TIME.. We onLy hAve 24 hours iN a dAy..yEt SOmETiMeS I WiSHeD TiME JuST GOeS On FOrEVeR.. (if yOu sUm aNd mAke it uP tHat wAy). If tHe "eXprEsSion" of LoVe wAs a cOre iNgrEdiEnt tO LoVe, wE wOuLd hAve tO bE sTinGy wiTh wHo wE lOvEd, bEcaUse thEre sImPLy wOuLdn’t be enOugh tiMe to dEmoNstRate oUr LoVe fOr eVerYone!! TrULy..!! If yOu sEe tHe disTinCtiOn bEtwEen tHe "fEeLing" aNd tHe "eXpReSsion", yOu cAn tHen loVe eNdLess nuMbErs of pEoPle..sHArE THe LOvE ARoUnD Ya’aLL !!…

A RomAnTic rELatIonShip iS oNe wHeRe yOu hAve a dEep fEeLiNg oF coNNecTiOn tO tHe oThEr pErsOn. You aCcePt tHem aS tHey aRe, waNt thEm to fEeL goOd, deEpLy apPrEciAte wHo thEy aRe aNd nOt chAngIng tHem iNto soMeOne thEy aRe nOt…

ThEy fIt iN wiTh mOst oF yOur pReFeRenCes iN a LiFe pArTner, i.E ; pErsOnaLiTy, LiFe gOaLs, bELiEfs aNd vaLuE sYsTeMs, etc.. THeY wiLL aLwAys be tHerE wHen yOu faLL sIcK aNd fEEliNg dOwN tO gIvE yOu wOrDs of cOmFoRt, eNcoUraGeMent aNd sTrEnGth…WiTHoUT AnY ObLiGAtIOn..

One oF tHe wAys yOu dEsiRe tO exPrEss yOur LoVe fOr tHem iS thRouGh yOur sExuALiTy. Sex(YES…sex!!..bElIEvE It Or Not..).. iS tHe oNe kEy eLeMeNt tHaT diStInGuIsHes a rOmAnTic reLaTioNsHip fRom aLL oThEr tYpEs. BUt moSt oF tHe tImE it wAs mIsUse iN tHe wRoNg wAy…MiSiNtERpREtAtIOn FoR LuSt…oR fULLfIlIng OnE’s SEXuAL eXpLoITaTIon..So..DaMn all Ya BlOKeS Who Is GuILtY As ChARgeD…!!

LoVe eXprEsSed is wHen yOu gIve yOur aTtenTion, yOur tIme, yOur foCus to sOmEoNe. oL’ mR Webster deFinEs aTTention aS “the giving of one’s mind to something." ThEre aRe mAny wAys in wHiCh wE give our attention to another. We uSe oUr fiVe sEnsEs. Our eaRs to listen… Being coMpLeTely pResEnt wIth tHe oNe wHo is sPeAkiNg. OuR eYes, wAtcHing aNotHer, uNdiViDed aTTeNtiOn. TaStIng/SmeLLinG? (I’ll let you figure that one out *WiNkx*….). ToUchIng, gIviNg a hUg, hoLdiNg hEr SOfT haNdS, a caReSsiNG hER SoFt aNgEL LiPs.., or seXual eXpReSSion *blush…blush*.

So JuST A qUIcK QUeSTiOn…hOw Do You yOu eXprEss yOur LoVe aNd aTTeNtiOn To ThAt SpECIal SOmEonE..??

31st October 2007..RaIn..RaIN..dOnT eVeR Go AWaY..

MR JACKY COLLINS.

PaRt of tHe fuNdaMenTal diFfeRenCes aMoNg mEn aNd wOmEn aRe hoW eaCh sEx apPrEciatEs emOtioNal aCts..yEs Ive said it!!…GenDer iSsUeS aRe CompLicaTed…. . WoMen aRe knoWn to be moRe exPreSsive, whiLe fOr maLEs, it iS coNsiDerEd mAnLy to rePrEss fEeLinGs aNd emOtiOn…yEs ItS ThAT DaRN ego CRAp THaT MOSt BOys HaS…pUHHhh-lleaSEEE..*WInKx*… ThE saMe aLso apPLlies to reLatiOnsHips… WoMen aRe eaGer to shOw afFecTion, whiLe it iS qUiTe coMmOn fOr mEn to be ovErLy exPreSsiVe of hIs LoVe toWaRd hIs mAte…iTs ALmOST LAuGHaBLe…sERiOUsLY..SpENd A sECOnD RIgHt NOw AnD ThINk….whEn U WeRe InVOlVeD WItH SOMeOne..DuRInG UR hONEymooN PErIOD…dIDNt ThOSe ChAps Did EvErYtHinG tO LeT Ya FeEL hOW mUcH hE LOvES yA..?? gO-fIgUrE..lAdiEs..*wiNkX*..

This cOuLd LeAd to seRioUs… diFFerEncEs beTweEn coUpLes aFteR tHe novelty of being in love(EveRyoNe go..AwwwWWW) wanes, for insTaNce in tHe fEw mOntHs or yEaRs aFter eMbArKing on a seRioUs ReLatiOnsHip…. A wOmAn wOuLd mIgHt bE LooKiNg fOr RoMance, bUt hEr mAte mIgHt bE tHinKiNg mOre in tHe LinEs of PraCtiCal tHinGs, sUch aS eaRniNg a sTable LivIng…SaviNg uP fOr a BetTeR tOmOrROW…He sAyS..

ThE idEaL adViCe is usUaLLy tHat iT dOeSn’t mEan tHat yOuR mAtE lOvEs yOu leSS if hE’s nOt as RomaNTic as whEn yOu weRe stiLL daTing..So CoME oN..CuT hIm soMe slaCK.!!?  SoMeTimEs, LoVe is eXpResSed in tHe sMall tHinGs aNd siMpLe… eVeRyDay gesTuRes. It dOeSn’t mEan he no LonGer LoVes yOu iF he dOeSn’t gIve yOu fLowErs aS oFtEn… FoR aLL yA nOE.. MAybe hE’s sAviNg uP fOr a beTTer fUtUre (or mAyBe hE’s saViNg up fOr an enGaGeMent riNg! NoW tELL mE tHat doEsNT sTriKE a JoY cHorD in Ya bODY LadiEs ??!! ).

WhAt’s iMpoRtaNt is thAt coUpLes gEt to tALk to oNe aNotHeR abOut expEcTatiOns..LeT mE eMphasIs on tHat.."TALK"!!!! NothiNg eLsE iS fAr mORe LUcRatIve..fOR a LONG BLOODY LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP..  You mAy be tHe rOmAnTic tyPe, aNd he..yEs ThAT SIllY SIllY MaN.., tHe praCtiCal oNe. But if yOu meEt haLfwAy, thEn yOu cAn lOOk foRwaRd to a hApPy, LoNg tERm ReLAtIOnsHIp… tRUST mE…Ü

bLOg DeDICAtED FOr MY eNGAgeD "All AH bEAr COuPle"

CoNGRAtUlaTION.

A pErFeCt giRL sHouLd:

Be preTTy, aNd TrULy cArE aBoUt hOw sHe lOoKs… It’s tHe rEasOn..in faCt tHe onLy rEasOn whY PlaYbOy sTaYs iN buSinEss eVen afTer yOu’Ve sEeN LiTeraLLy evEry iNch Of tHe woMan anAtoMy..thorOughLy.. We mEn LiKe tO lOoK aT wOmEn..tHats juSt somEthIng tHat cAmE iN ouR sub-cOnsciOus mInd wHen wE fiRsT lsaid eyEs on thAt gorgEouS woMan on thAt mAgaZiNe covEr..(*dreamin*..aww.MegaN foxX..hmmm…dayyumm….) Nway..sorRy..lOst traCked abiT..wheRe weRe we?..oH..ya.. EvEn if yOu dOn’t LoOk perFeCt..wHiCh noRmALLy is tHe caSe..coS..daMmIt..nobOdy’S pErfeecT!!.. it shOuLd bE cLeAr thAt yoU’re tRying hArd…tOO harD..somEtiMeS…. Be siMuLtAneOusLy uNavAiLabLe aNd hOLd tHe pRoMisE of a fUtuRe pHySicAL reLatiOnsHip…Now thIs iS foR aLL yA hOrNY bAsTaRds oUT tHeRe>> ThAt MeAns SEX oN tHe fiRst dAtE is a bAd iDeA<< bUt sOmeTimEs.. if yOu rULe it oUt cOmpLeTeLy, yOu’Re pRobAbLy nOt gOinG to gEt aNotHer daTe frOm tHe aVeRaGe gUy….NoT waNtiNG tO soUnD cOnDesAnDiNG..but… MeN aRe PIGS!!?.. aNd thAt’s aLL tHeRe is tO iT… TheY wAnt tO hAvE *whispers*…SEX!!..aNd wHen tHey doNt gEt iT ..tHey BecoMe aSsEs..LaMe..M#ThER$^!?rS!!. YoUr dAd wAsn’t LyiNg wHen hE sAid tHat’s wHat TheY’re aFter..WeLL..fOr MosT oF us tHat Is..*wInKx*. But tHat’s nOt tHe onLy tHiNg… So LisTen uP for oNcE ladiEs… Be inTeLLigEnt eNouGh to hAvE a sEnsIbLe coNveRsaTion. .If yOu’re nOt, yOu’re gOing to gEt boRinG reALLy fAst..aNd tHat woULd rEaLLy be a dAmPer fOr boTh pArtIEs… Be focUsEd on mE(Guy) duRiNg tHe dAte. THat doEsn’T mEan tHe dAte is aLL aBouT mE..i mEan..iM No sUpaStAr.. bUt no wOmaN sHouLd taLk aBoUt oThEr gUys sHe’s dAtEd or hEr miSerAble EX wHo obvIousLy is a fooL in tHe firsT pLaCe.. or sOme gUy sHe rEaLLy LikEs…bLa..bLa..bLa… If yOu’Re oUt on a dAte wIth me..iTs simpLe cOS tHen tHe fOcUs shouLd be on oUr daTe… I wAnt to kNow wHo yOu aRe.. nOt wHo yoUr LosEr eX wAs.. aNd I waNt yOu inTerEstEd in geTTing to kNow mE.CoS obviOUsLy..iVe gOt lOadS tO offEr..ahem..*winkx*.. Be sEcuRe eNouGh tO forGiVe my oCcaSional gLanCes at oTher aTtraCtive wOmEn..cOs i wouLd..an dAt lEast iM mAn enUff tO teLL yA straighT to ya faCe..cOS most gUYs wHO doNt..weLL..dONt miStAke tHem fOr bEiN lOyaL..foR thOsE aRe tHe cHapS thAt cHeaT behINd yOur bAck..tHe sLy oNes..jack-aSsEs… i mEan..coMe on’ I’m nOt shoPPing fOr aNotHer woMan wHen I do tHat.. mEn hoNestLy cAn’t heLp it. ChAnces aRe rEaLLy goOd I dOn’t reaLize I’m doiNg it.. in faCt, aNd thAt sHe proBabLy diDn’t eVen rEgisTer on me cOnsCiousLy..WhiCh iS alWaYS gOod..tRuSt mE… TeAse me aBoUt it, bUt dOn’t gEt mAd… ThaTs jUst tHe cOmMON naTure.. sO LeArn tO deaL witH iT..

cHeerioS…